100 days – Day 15


100 days – Day 15: old friends


Today, we say farewell to one of Helen’s dearest friends.  They were at school together.

Helen predeceased Lyn  by just under two years.  She was only 58 and Lyn had just turned 60.

Too young and so sad.

Both were “individuals” in their own way.  Both a wee bit off-the-wall.  Each of them caring and compassionate.

I treasure this message received in December 2012:


Hello Sandy, I was doing Christmas cards today and I came to trying to do yours and they all said things like ‘Merry Christmas’ or ‘Happy Christmas’ and I know it won’t be for you.

Then one of your friends mentioned Helen’s name on Facebook and I have been crying since – I can hardly bear the thought of what you must be going through at this time and I miss her too so much. She was alway there even when we weren’t in touch for months (sometimes years) and I still can hear her voice.

Must be so much worse for you and I wish I could just give you a big hug.

Hope your boys and their families are ok and that you will be with them at Christmas. Sorry that I can’t convey what I am feeling for you but I do think about you lots and lots and obviously about Helen.

There are a couple of the places around here that always make me think about her which makes me glad that she did get down here to visit. She was quite outrageous in the Co-op and kept telling me she could do what she liked because she was the minister’s wife. We laughed SO much.


Somewhere, the two old friends are having a good chin-wag and laughing SO much



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About meenister

An ordained Church of Scotland Minister since 1974. Started off in Doune which is near Stirling, before moving to Trinidad for four years; on my return to Scotland, I was a rural minister in Perthshire and then was asked to become Minister at St.Michael's Inveresk where I spent eleven happy years. A short ministry in Guernsey followed and since 1999, I was a full time healthcare Chaplain in the town of Dumfries in SW Scotland, retiring from that post in December 2012. I started this blog on 6 May 2012, soon after my wife, Helen, was diagnosed with secondary cancer - it was a sort of diversion and still is, following her death on 16 June. I hope it shows that there is a lighter side to religion, that it's not gloom and doom and that we can sometimes laugh at ourselves in a self-effacing way. Some posts are, however, I hope provoking and food for thought.

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